On Friday, I sat in the cinema surrounded by giggling groups of women my notebook open on my lap, as I watched the latest instalment in the Fifty Shades series, Fifty Shades Darker. There are parts that were fun to watch, and parts that were awkward sat in a cinema full of people but overall was an inspiring watch. If you’ve seen the film you might be asking yourself, where can I find toys like I saw in the movie. I’ve done my research and found you the best on offer at the moment:
Kegal Balls / Ben Wa Balls
The first sex toy we see in the movie isn’t necessarily something I would class as a toy, it is a set of Ben Wa (or kegel) balls. These little spheres are made to exercise a lady’s pelvic floor muscles; regular use can help increase the intensity of your orgasms (as well as improving bladder control). They come in a variety of styles, colours, sizes and materials.
I love these soft textured kegal balls from Mae B. You apply a touch of lube to the first ball and slip them up inside your vaginal canal. They go about your business. I tend to put mine in while I am cooking, this means I am moving around (so the muscles work harder to hold them in), and I keep them in for around 15 mins. That’s all you need to improve your orgasms. It can also be really fun if your partner removes them for you while giving you oral. Very intense feeling.
A Little Light Restraint
Later we see Mr Grey pull off his tie and use it to restrain Ana’s hands, you could use an actual tie but you can also get great ‘silk’ restraints like these fifty shades grey silk bondage ties, that you can use. These are a good beginners item because they can easily be removed in an emergency situation, or if your partner gets panicky.
Later we see Christian restrain Ana’s hands using cuffs. You can get so many different sets; leather, nylon, fur, padded, ones that also fasten together. So many varieties. these vintage leather lockable wrist cuffs are one of my favourite sets. The leather is soft and malleable, the padding is light, and they are really comfortable to wear….they also smell really good.
Bondage & Sensory Deprivation
When he cuffs her he also uses a blindfold, sensation play like this can really enhance the intensity of feelings when your other senses kick in to make up for the blindfold. They don’t have to be big or heavy to work in this way, and they can really add an extra dimension to your play.
The nipple clamps he uses are adjustable, when you’re a beginner with this type of nipple play it is important to start with something that can be adjusted. You may not think it hurts but the feeling when it is removed can be really intense (as the blood rushes back the nerves go crazy). Go slowly and build up. These chain linked adjustable nipple clamps would be a good set to start with.
Upping your Game – The Spreader Bar
At one point during the film, we see Mr Grey use a spreader bar to hold Ana in place while he has his fun with her.
Adjustable spreader bars are a great addition to any kinky play because they can be used in so many ways, especially ones like this designer expandable spreader bar from Scandal with rings for attachments along them. Adjustable ones also mean they can be used whether your partner is very flexible, or less so.
The last item I want to mention from the film isn’t a toy as such, it’s massage oil. This can be a lot of fun. You can even warm it up by standing the bottle in a cup of hot water for a few minutes. Massage oil is great for slicking over your partner’s skin, helping you explore their body.
I hope you enjoyed our mini guide to the sex toys from Fifty Shades, and I hope I inspired you to try something new.